Today I wanted to talk about how to prove other people wrong. I’m not talking about that in some bullshit way, I’m talking about that in the perspective of some people are going to tell you, you don’t need to quit drinking and probably worse of all that alcohol is good in life, that alcohol offers you something and why are you quitting? You don’t have to do this?
For me they are just examples of what I call the little man. Why would people want to stop you from quitting drinking alcohol in the first place? Why would they want to put these obstacles in your way.
There are a whole variety of reasons why somebody would want to do this, one of the main ones is that they are afraid that you are going to take something away from them.
Not physically taking the alcohol or something else away from them, not even that you are going to stop them drinking, but if you are moving forwards with your life and you tell them I want to quit drinking for A, B, Z, because I want to improve, my health, wealth and life in general – what happens if you actually do those things?
I remember when is quitted drinking the first time, it was about eight years ago and I didn’t drink alcohol for about 10 months. I remember my mate saying to me and I remember the same mate saying the same thing when I told him it was moving up to Ireland, which was “What about me? Who am I going to go out with now?”
That’s one of the big problems, someone is not looking at it from your perspective, they are looking at it from their own perspective. Other people will be envious of you, they will be jealous, they don’t want to see you succeed. They fear that if you succeed in what you’re doing that it shines a bad light on them. If they are drinking the same amount as you were drinking and you say that you are going to stop, it means that they should also be thinking about quitting and that they are doing something wrong.
The number one antidote for this is to not focus on other people.
It doesn’t matter what other people think, you cannot control what the other man thinks especially the little man, because he won’t listen to you. The little man has got little thoughts and they are not willing or able to listen to the bigger thoughts, thoughts about moving forward and onwards, moving upwards, making something of yourself.
They want to be on the hamster wheel of life going around and around, doing the same fucking thing over and over again. When you step of the hamster wheel and start looking towards the oil well and seeing how much oil you can get out of your own life, how much gold you can get out of your own gold mine of life, they don’t like that.
You are going to have a lot of opposition, because of that kind of thinking, because of the little man type of thinking. So, the only thing that you can do is to focus on your own reality, your own thoughts, your own journey and go for it 100% and fuck everything else that everyone else says to you, especially the little man.
People who have got a good mind and people that are progressive, people that want to move forwards in life, they know that in order to move forward in life you’ve got to help others. You’ve got to make it so you can bring other people along with you, you can’t do this on your own, no man is an island, you can’t go through your life in a singularity complex where you’re the only person who is going to succeed in life.
I is not something that is realistic, maybe the naysayer, this little person is someone that is close to you, someone that you care about that has got small minded thinking but you progress on to big minded thinking. What do you do then? How do you get somebody to follow you on track?
There is nothing that you can say that will bring these people along with you, it’s all in what you do. It’s showing people by example, moving forwards in your life, doing the things you need to do, move forwards and carry on regardless of what they are saying. Just do it and you will find that a lot of people will see your progress and might be jealous of it, they might think “who are you to do this, who are you to do that?” I’m jealous of your progress – but it might spark them to do the same thing.
So this is what you want with people that are close to you in life, that’s the only way you are going to get them to follow you and that is by leading by example. You certainly can’t hold your life off because of these people because it doesn’t work, one of the things in life it’s not about proving other people wrong or proving yourself right, it’s about building up your life and self-confidence, the more confidence you have in your life, the more confidence you will exhume to other people and the more confidence others will have in you.
If you’ve done this thing yourself from the person you were, to where you are not, the more chance they have of doing it as well and following on.
There’s a great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that “Nothing can make you feel inferior without your consent” and that’s just the fact of it if you are going to bring these people on and lead by example. If you can’t lead these people on leave them the fuck behind because they are only to ruin what you are trying to do for yourself, they are only going to be like a weight about your weight and shoulders that is dragging you back, they will want you to unhitch yourself from anything that they can’t drag you back from and you want to just pull yourself to things that are pulling you forwards into your life and the goals you want to achieve.
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